I have a couple of thoughts I want to share about friendship.
First and foremost I'm so so thankful I have people I can call my best friends. I know they will be my true BFF's, and that last will truly mean FOREVER!!! Sara and Sarah and Alicia I'm so lucky to have you all in my life!!! I'm also lucky to have a handful of other people who are great friends. It's so nice to have people in your life that you may not see or talk to as often as you like, but when you do reconnect you pick back up right where you left off. It's a great feeling. I'm also so very thankful that the boyfreindy is also one of my best friends.
What sucks about my current friendships is that I have ZERO girlfriends in the city I'm currently living. My co workers are great, and I enjoy chatting with another co-workers wife, but these friendships aren't the same. We are work friends, and I need outside of work friends. Again, I'm super thankful that I can count the boyfriendy as a friend, but I NEED my girls! It's rough not having them in the same town. I miss being able to hop in my car and be at Webby's in 10 mins. or the late night trips to Steak and Shake with Silly. I'll never in my life be too old for slumber parties with these girls, but it's hard when they are 2 and 4 hours away.
I also don't understand why it's so much harder to make friends as an adult. I enjoy meeting new people, I think I'm pretty friendly, but man it's rough! Being in a new city with no girlfriends sucks. I don't recommend it! That's why I'm so glad I can talk to the boyfriendy about anything, and I can be my same silly self around him that I would be with my girlfriends, and he loves me, and laughs at my sillyness/randomness.
Friendships, especially when you are far away, and at different stages in life, take work. I fully get that. I make the effort to keep in touch with people, I feel like I really do, at least I try. When the other person doesn't seem to try it sucks. It hurts. I'm an emotional girl, and when people don't put the same effort into the friendship that I do, it makes me sad. (Just for the record Webby and Silly are NOT who I'm talking about here, they are great about making equal effort in our relationships). I don't like endings, or goodbyes, so when I feel friendships fizzling it's hard on me. I wonder do I keep making efforts, and continue getting my feelings hurt, or do I move on and close that chapter in my life, and smile at the memories made with said friend. Both are hard.
I love love love that I have amazing friendships, and great people in my life, but at the same time I'm sad because I feel other friendships ending, and have no local besties.
Okay--- there is no real point to this I guess. I can't sum things up in some nice little way. Just more Tara rambles :)
Do me a favor-- call a friend you haven't talked to in awhile today :) It'll make their day!!
XO
Tara Pants
